July 13, 2012
I recently celebrated my 17th wedding anniversary with my wife Susan. While we were out having dinner she asked a powerful question that I am still struggling with a month later. She asked "What would you consider the high points of our marriage"? As we talked it became apparent that all the events that we offered were all in a reactionary mode and how we made it through it and how we came out on the other end. I said "We have been living our lives on a scale between 4 and 7, what does a 8 or 9 look like"? It was truly a dial tone life.
What popped up next is that the 8 or 9 includes a greater chance of failure or risk that we can't manage and have to confront and deal with. We recently went ziplining which was a pro-active choice and provided a great relantionship bonding experience. Instead of talking about doing something, we made plans and did it.
3 easy steps:
Find something new that really resonates with you and chose it with the mentality that you are committed to see it through. It can be anything and the sky is the limit!
Now that you have made your choice, what steps do you need to take to make it happen. Set a timeframe to complete whatever tasks needed to reach your prize. If you need help, do not hesitate to ask for it. One of the greatest attributes of a leader is to ask for help (it is NOT a sign of weakness but of strength)
To truly change your life you can use this exercise in any area of your life.
For me, I am thinking about going parachuting....it scares the beejeebers out of me just thinking about it and clearly would be a 8 or 9!
Go forth courageously!